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Boosted by taral ("JP Sugarbroad"):
jyasskin@hachyderm.io ("Jeffrey Yasskin") wrote:
Apropos of something the #Ladybird founder posted: you can't be nice to people and also accept absolutely everyone into your project or community, because some people (e.g. the ones in charge of the U.S. right now) want to be mean to other people. (Another phrasing is that you can't include both the sheep and the wolves, although that metaphor doesn't hold up if you look any deeper.)
Codes of conduct (and, generally, social norms) are essential, and one of the possible consequences for a code of conduct violation has to be ejection from the community. (It's super rare in practice, but it has to be available.)
With enough energy, you can heal a lot of the mean people, but you don't owe everyone that investment, and if a person doesn't heal with the investment they have available, their presence isn't compatible with a healthy community.
Any community I'll support has to treat trans people, immigrants, and other groups marginalized for being themselves as the wonderful people they are. Groups marginalized for being awful to other people (e.g. fascists) are fair game.